We get a LOT of messages about our bodies, especially on social media. Are we checking the current (ever-changing) boxes of what society views as attractive? It can be fun to lean into the latest trends, AND it’s important to feel good about ourselves.
But, if you’ve ever caught a glance in the mirror and worried, “Am I attractive?” here are some important reminders about where the worth in our appearance really lies.
“You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by your will they were created and have their being.” – Revelation 4:11
I looked at myself in the full-length mirror and felt disappointment. Why did God give me this body? My looks? I confronted my creator and asked, “Why did you design me this way?” God could’ve given me a different bone structure, hair type, skin color, curves, muscles… but he didn’t. I sensed him responding, “I love every inch of you.” But that wasn’t enough for me. I deeply desired to look more “attractive.”
One morning, while I looked in the mirror, God asked me, “What’s the point of beauty if it only points to you?” The fog lifted, and I saw my true heart; I wasn’t just complaining to God, wishing I was more attractive, and comparing myself to others– I was creating competition. When focusing on my own attractiveness, I ultimately aim to put myself on a pedestal, which always requires others to be lower.
Revelation 4: 9-11, shows us the proper response towards beauty; to glorify God. Though the elders (thought to represent those who have gone before us in the faith) were given beautiful crowns, after seeing the beauty of other creations, they “lay their crowns before the throne” and worship the Creator.
With humans as God’s only creation made in his image, focusing on my own “attractiveness” and comparing myself to others distracts from my purpose; to glorify God… We are the centerpiece of his creation. Our design and unique appearances all paint one giant masterpiece. I cannot be compared, nor should I compete.
Why It Matters
It’s okay to get dressed up, put on makeup, and try to look my best. But when I get disappointed with how I look, I quickly have to ask the Holy Spirit to change my thoughts from focusing on my “attractiveness” to instead remembering that my looks were made to point to God, rather than myself. Frankly, it’s okay that I’m sometimes not seen as “attractive” by the world’s standards (or mine) because God created and truly does love every inch of me. I cannot start comparing or wishing I was different. I look in the mirror and think, “What a gift it is to receive my looks, to take part in celebrating others’ beauty, and to have the opportunity to worship the only one worthy to receive praise for our beauty.”
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why did God create me as a woman who workes so hard, go to church, keep my body pure as a temple and deprives me of the love and touch of a partner. I’ve been in a beauty pageant in my 20’s, a runner up, held impressive jobs that others wanted, been good to nieces and nephews, friends family strangers, but never asked to be a wife, mother, like no one picked me. I was okay with that throughout my 40′ s and 50’s. Now in my sixties it is killing me and I can’t stop thinking about it. I’ve not met a man to be mine, and I dread having an old man when I’m 80, or maybe dead before that. I’m so broken hearted.
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